Six tips for keeping it together as a new caregiver

by ElderCarelink

According to the AARP, approximately 80% of elderly care is provided by family members and friends. Whether it's been a gradual progression or an emergency thrust you into your position as a caregiver for an aging parent or loved one, understanding and accepting your new role is important for everyone concerned.

 Here are a few tips for folks just starting out as caregivers:

 Prepare the paperwork. Getting important paperwork together before it is needed saves a huge headache down the road. Make sure your talk to your loved one about things like a living will, power of attorney, advanced directives and a plan for emergencies.

 Learn all you can. Gather every scrap of information you can about your loved one's condition. This helps you talk to doctors and other care providers more fluently and often helps eliminate anxiety. Keep a file with your notes and contact information for doctors, hospitals & c. along with the important legal documents mentioned above.

 Listen to your instincts. You should always heed the words and warnings of doctors and other care professionals, but don't ignore your own feelings. If something doesn't sit right, get a second or third opinion. If you aren't comfortable with a service or doctor, find a new one. You know your loved one well; don't forget it.

 Get organized. Generate a list of things you need to accomplish and plan for how you will accomplish those tasks. Being organized can reduce stress and uncertainty.

 Encourage independence. Don't let your loved one switch over to relying on you for everything just because s/he needs care. Encourage your loved one to do as much as s/he can without you and to engage in social activities.

 Be good to yourself. Know and accept your limits. No one benefits if you burn out. Talk to friends, family, doctors, your loved one and anyone else involved about how much you can give and what needs to happen when you hit that limit.

 You aren't alone in this. Find local organizations and support groups that can help you get into the swing of things, and don't be afraid to ask for help.